It is safe to say that 2020 has given us more than enough to weep over. But even before
2020, we seem to have cried quite often. Researchers estimate that women cry
an average of 3.5 times a month, while men cry about 1.9 times a month. These numbers may
come as a surprise to some of us, especially as our society has often viewed crying –
especially in men – as a sign of weakness and lack of emotional strength.
Healthy degrees is a phenomenon that is unique to humans, crying is a natural response
to a variety of emotions, ranging from deep sadness and sadness to great happiness and joy. But is
crying good for your health? The answer seems to be yes. The medical benefits of crying have
been known for centuries. The thinkers and physicians of ancient Greece and Rome said that
tears acted as a cleansing liquid, draining us and cleansing us. Today’s thinking
largely coincides with that and emphasizes the role of crying as a system that allows us
to release stress and emotional pain.
Crying is an important safety valve, mainly because storing difficult emotions
can be bad for your health. Studies show that storing difficult emotions
is associated with reduced immune resilience, cardiovascular disease and hypertension as well as mental health,
including stress, anxiety and depression. Crying has also shown increased bonding,
encouraging closeness, compassion and support from friends and family.
Not all tears are the same
Scientists divide crying into three different categories: reactionary tears, continuous tears, and emotional tears.
The first two categories play an important role in removing debris such as smoke and dust from the
eyes and lubricating the eyes to protect them from infection. Their content is 98% water.
Then there is the third category, emotional tears (which flush out stress hormones and other toxins from our system),
which possibly offers the greatest health benefits. Scientists have found that
crying releases oxytocin and endorphins. These good ingredients help relieve both physical and
emotional pain. Popular culture, for its part, has always recognized the value of good tears as a
way to feel better – and perhaps even to experience physical pleasure. Millions of people who
watched classic tear-jerking movies like West Side Story or Titanic (among others)
will probably testify to that fact.
About crying in boys and men
“I know you should not cry,” says the lyrics of the popular song, “but I can not hold back these tears.”
These words briefly summarize the dilemma of many about emotional expression. Early on, boys are
told that real men do not cry. As these boys grow up, they can deepen their emotions
and withdraw emotionally from their loved ones,
or become addicted to alcohol or drugs, and even end up committing suicide. Many men therefore need to learn skills in
reconnecting with their emotions. Back in the 1990s, the poet Robert Bly led
men’s seminars where he taught participants how to get in touch with long-buried people.
their feelings of grief and loss and crying openly if they needed to. Ideally, such instruction
should begin early, at home or at school, and with adults who make it safe for boys to talk
about difficult feelings.
When are tears a problem?
There are times when crying can be a sign of a problem, especially if it happens very often
and / or for no reason, or when crying begins to affect daily activities or becomes
unstoppable. People who suffer from certain types of clinical depression cannot really cry,
even when they are feeling unwell. In any of these situations, it would be best to consult a doctor who
can help diagnose the problem and suggest appropriate treatment.
As challenging as it may be, the best way to deal with difficult emotions,
including sadness and grief reactions. It is important to allow yourself to cry if you feel that way.
Be sure to take your time and find a safe space to cry if you need to. Many people associate crying
during grief and depression when it can actually be a sign of healing. To
teach boys and young men that it’s okay to cry can reduce negative behavior
and help them live life to the full.
If crying becomes overwhelming or uncontrollable, consult a doctor or
mental health professional for solutions and treatment.